tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1778808128243508421.post3046376989936304225..comments2013-10-25T16:23:14.437+01:00Comments on Malaika Rose Stanley: That Didn't HappenUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1778808128243508421.post-80772749612188672172013-06-18T16:36:23.921+01:002013-06-18T16:36:23.921+01:00Thanks, Oni. Your words of support and prayers mea...Thanks, Oni. Your words of support and prayers mean a lot to me. Thinking of you too. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09186725193473313269noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1778808128243508421.post-49738522829944889762013-06-17T22:01:10.263+01:002013-06-17T22:01:10.263+01:00You know I hade to read your words sis. So real an...You know I hade to read your words sis. So real and new to my soul. My mother, sister and friend have died from it. I submitted my poem to Debra for the new project. I don't have cancer, that I know of, but for years have struggled with asthma, allergies and now....pushing 60...Arthritis in my knees...both of them. I will pray that you will be cancer free very soon.<br />Sisterly love,<br />Oni<br /> Aunti Onihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12529869126329606604noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1778808128243508421.post-137288705041480032012-10-25T21:49:04.678+01:002012-10-25T21:49:04.678+01:00I'm so sorry to hear about this, Malaika. Send...I'm so sorry to hear about this, Malaika. Sending many hugs and (of course) chocolate. xEmma Passhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18209194238119830841noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1778808128243508421.post-15209112781913354322012-10-25T20:12:43.659+01:002012-10-25T20:12:43.659+01:00Thank you for all your kind, supportive, inspiring...Thank you for all your kind, supportive, inspiring words, virtual hugs and best wishes. <br />Jen, finding another massage therapist is now top of my to-do list - even if it means fewer cakes... <br />but hopefully not less shopping - or dancing.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09186725193473313269noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1778808128243508421.post-77767801098064255852012-10-25T19:25:00.490+01:002012-10-25T19:25:00.490+01:00Oh, sweetie, I didn't realise that you've ...Oh, sweetie, I didn't realise that you've had to go through all of this...so sorry to hear about it. I can only wish you happy writing, living, loving and, of course, dancing. XX JANEJane McLoughlinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11560284790806029134noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1778808128243508421.post-53758039038904932832012-10-25T16:59:16.849+01:002012-10-25T16:59:16.849+01:00Definitely NOT self-indulgent. Do what you need to...Definitely NOT self-indulgent. Do what you need to do, and know we will be here to support you.JOhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03127111575563904349noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1778808128243508421.post-16372096347843310562012-10-25T14:17:04.335+01:002012-10-25T14:17:04.335+01:00Yes, it was with Look Good, Feel Better - the fant...Yes, it was with Look Good, Feel Better - the fantastic goody bag makes you feel fabulous whenever you use the stuff you couldn't normally justify! :) And yes, I know of the Worcester Busters, but I'm not very confident on water and the Severn in Worcester is pretty big and Dragon boats are quite small! I do get down to London sometimes so we'll have to meet for cake! xxWendhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14672961429424521950noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1778808128243508421.post-69545673258308993822012-10-25T12:42:57.575+01:002012-10-25T12:42:57.575+01:00You really are an inspiration! I too am sick (sorr...You really are an inspiration! I too am sick (sorry) of people telling me to be positive, to keep fighting, and - the very worst thing - that it will be fine. How do they know? So I'm going to say none of those things, except to say I wish you all the very best, and that I send virtual hugs. I find shopping helps when all else fails. Any excuse! xxAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00018944465720933242noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1778808128243508421.post-22655317928865074112012-10-25T12:31:12.133+01:002012-10-25T12:31:12.133+01:00Well we haven't met, Malaika, but I felt I kne...Well we haven't met, Malaika, but I felt I knew you a bit from our various networks, and now I feel I know you better. I hate these military metaphors for illness too - I think they describe the conventional medical approach more than our personal experience of illness. Massages and all the other things that nurture both body and soul are really important - is there any way you could find another massage therapist? Even at my most strapped-for-cash, I've always given myself the indulgence of a massage treatment every month. Thank you for sharing this moment with us here - not self-indulgent at all.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1778808128243508421.post-38546836766140300562012-10-25T12:21:01.259+01:002012-10-25T12:21:01.259+01:00Thanks, Jo - lemon tart and eclairs with Catherine...Thanks, Jo - lemon tart and eclairs with Catherine were a highlight and today's already looking much brighter.<br />And thank you, Penny - it definitely felt like the 'last straw' but writing about it was cathartic and I hope not too self-indulgent.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09186725193473313269noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1778808128243508421.post-41153234602458386902012-10-25T11:02:58.644+01:002012-10-25T11:02:58.644+01:00Private sorrows, eh? Sorry to hear that you're...Private sorrows, eh? Sorry to hear that you're more than usually scared and haunted at the moment, Ros, and even more sad that this post's been triggered by the "no massage" decision from whoever. Sometimes one straw is what you need to keep all the others close to your grasp.<br /><br />Unlike others in my own family, I've been lucky, apart from a couple of scares - when life does indeed take on another urgency - so I never had to do the grim carry on carrying on and on and on. So all I can say is that I hope that your hopes are fulfilled and that your writing does what you need it to (as well as bringing success and happiness etc) and continues speaking out in your essential voice. Must add that you always seem three times as full of life as most other people to me, and right now I am glad of that. Good big wishes to you and your family and your books.Penny Dolanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16386668303428008498noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1778808128243508421.post-51164808388455090772012-10-25T09:23:37.023+01:002012-10-25T09:23:37.023+01:00Oh Makaika, I'm so sorry. And I agree wholehea...Oh Makaika, I'm so sorry. And I agree wholeheartedly that the battle metaphor is unhelpful - with its implication that anyone who doesn't 'fight' hard enough is going to be a loser. Everyone dances with cancer in her or his own way. I hope you have friends lined up to support you, to make you tea and cake, make you laugh, and offer tissues on the crap days.JOhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03127111575563904349noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1778808128243508421.post-49611849538771659032012-10-24T22:42:07.904+01:002012-10-24T22:42:07.904+01:00Thank you, Wendy. Thinking of you too. Was your ma...Thank you, Wendy. Thinking of you too. Was your makeover with Look Good, Feel Better? I did that too! It's easy to forget how many services are available in London and not in other parts of the country... but amazingly, I did just hear of a Paddlers for Life group in Worcester: http://www.worcester-busters.org.uk/<br /> Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09186725193473313269noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1778808128243508421.post-69144830814841705602012-10-24T22:13:55.508+01:002012-10-24T22:13:55.508+01:00I know I've only been living with my cancer di...I know I've only been living with my cancer diagnosis for 21 months. The op, chemo, radiotherapy and now the Arimidex have knocked me about physically. But the worst thing is the way it plays with your mind and that side of it is invisible to everyone else. I too hate being described as brave and an inspiration - it isn't a choice, you just deal with it. The only complementary or free 'treatment' I've had is a free makeup makeover. Anything else is difficult to get to as I don't drive! All I can offer to you is my long distance mental support and my love. Take care and know that I am thinking of you xx Wendy Phelps from WorcesterWendhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14672961429424521950noreply@blogger.com